Do opposites really attract?

Apparently one of the most robust findings in psychological science is our tendency to gravitate towards like-minded people. Psychologists call this homophily - literally “love of the same” – and it is most apparent in marriage.

So, then, why is romantic fiction obsessed with opposites? If data shows that we are drawn towards people like us – there is, supposedly, no evidence that opposites attract – then why Romeo and Juliet, Holly and Paul, Danny and Sandy?

Perhaps it is because the key ingredient of any story is conflict and tension. And it is really satisfying when, despite everything, the story reaches resolution and the protagonists overcome adversity to find love or fulfillment. I don't know about you, but I do read stories for escapism, for the exciting and extraordinary, and it makes anything seem possible when enemies can become friends and opposites can fall in love.

I like to think that I have also proven the science wrong as, at face value, no-one would ever have put my husband and I together. We are perhaps a real, successful example of "opposites attract" (e.g. I'm bookish and shy, he's very practical and sociable) - here we still are, going strong with more than 22 years of marriage behind us! ❤️

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